Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Lack of concentration or lack of challenges?


It took me almost 40 years to understand and accept that I don't have a concentration/procrastination/add problem - I am just highly intelligent, very multifaceted, with extreme amounts of experience, due to a courageous life well lived, and I need challenges of that caliber, otherwise I can't be bothered. 


Like a sheep dog I need exercise, and variation, if not I basically "eat the furniture" or go crazy :)  


My problem has been that I have some times followed the popular conceptual thinking that one has to start from the bottom or start with A before B. Now I know better and coach others on designing and living a life fitting of their strengths and genius, and to stop playing "the consideration game" and think critically about the origin of some of their thought patterns. This of course takes serious self-management skills. Skills that many people do not have and paradoxically many with extreme strengths/skills/genius rely too heavily and singularly on these (plus too many people around them have respected these strengths/skills/genius far too much and not helped them use the "tools", and far too many understand very late in life that they are a double edged sword that one can easily hurt one self with).


One of the many things that opened my eyes to this was interestingly Poker. My father had a certain fondness for the game and I had joined him a few times at the casino when visiting him, without much success. The game just couldn't keep my focus or motivation, and as a result I didn't play it or take it seriously. 
Then one day I asked to be transferred to another poker table and in the move a human error led to me sitting at a table with considerably more money on the line, and all of a sudden I was totally focused and highly engaged, and winning.


The moral of the story is this - make sure you are always "playing at a table" that captures your focus and motivation!