Perspective is key.

Because perspective is the little brother of beliefs. It is like smoke and fire. Once you find perspective you soon find yourself a belief. And beliefs shape your experiences, so thus shape not only your life, but the You that is shaped by your life experiences. And t h a t quickly becomes a lot of programming to break free of on your own, and a lot of You to say farewell to - should you wish to do so...

Some perspectives and beliefs are indistinguishable from one another, and many are handed to you by your environment, never based on your own experiences, never framed in your words or language that you yourself have defined. Yet they can have profoundly negative impact on your life if you are not aware and/or get your hands on some mental floss.

One of my big one's was the fact that Humanity wasn't very human. Not fair, not nice, not rational, not self preserving, etc etc. Yes, there is evidence or rather statistics that points to the veracity and fault of these judgements, BUT the points is not what is the truth of the matter. The point is what is my truth of the matter.

My truth was a fuckin downer. A far reaching, all encompassing, standard lowering, dualistic, generalizing, judgemental downer...

Until I became aware of it and gave it a good thought, and found a new perspective.

Here it is:

We, humanity, are the monkeys that domesticated ourselves. That evolved internally and externally, as individuals and as groups, from being feces slinging, ass picking, belly scratching, tree dwellers (like many before me I enjoy the extra emphasis, even when it for the time being parts from the truth) to what we are today. It may not be much in your eyes, but who/what else are you going to compare with?!

No matter what your argument is there is no denying - we have come a loooong way.

And that my dear friends is a positive belief.

There is no such thing as a problem.
Unless you have a preferred outcome, intention or goal of some sort.


It is not a problem to be sick unless your goal is to be healthy.
It is not a problem to be poor unless your goal is to be wealthy.
It is not a problem to be unknown unless your goal is to be well known.
It is not a problem to be alone unless your goal is to be together with some one.


Yet many hold on to their problems as if they are a version of monopoly's "get out of jail" card. Except this card is a "get out continuing your life" card, and as such it is usually used in order not to do the stuff that needs to be done.


Why is it so H A R D ?


Usually we experience "problems" not because we have a goal/intention/preferred outcome, but because we have so many that they are in conflict with one another almost constantly, pulling us in different directions, at different times.


This is one of the reasons self awareness and expressing yourself out loud, preferably to others, in order to hear yourself talk about your "problems", goals, and ultimately your priorities and commitments to yourself is such a strong tool.